Marriage or Relationship

Marriage and Relationships

My sisters out there;

How many of you beautiful ladies are leading your marriage and family right now?
Who wears the pants in your marriage?

My confidence and self worth was ruined by my past relationships due to my past experiences led me to think that men are all the same. I wasn’t going to let no man tell me what to do or let any in-laws (family) tell me what to do Lol.

When I met my husband Adrian he took a lot of my past hurts and pain. I can remember when we first met and how Adrian approached me lol My first reaction/answer was a no lol.I treated him like he was nothing simply because I was hurt from my previous relationship.
I was reflecting on my own marriage and boy I was a strong woman lol.
Adrian’s LOVE broke all my walls down. I can admit to y’all, I WASNT the leader in my marriage I was the neck lol. Ladies being the neck in a marriage isn’t degrading. Without the neck there will be no Head lol. There’s a saying “Behind a good man is a good lady lol”.
In this modern age, women are not encouraged to allow the man to be the initiator or the pursuer. Biblical masculinity and femininity are rarely viewed as positive things anymore. We don’t like the idea of the male and female having differing roles in a relationship.
Adrian and I often hear questions like this: Are gender distinctions good or bad? Is one gender more valuable than the other? Am I weak if I enjoy being distinctly feminine? Am I spineless if I allow the man to be the initiator in the relationship?

If we try to answer these questions apart from the Bible, we will end up completely confused. If we use our personal opinions or preferences, we could answer those questions in a million different ways.
Thankfully, God didn’t leave us on our own to come up with answers. He was intentional, just like in every other aspect of our lives, with His design for the male and the female. He has a purpose that is better than anything we could come up with.
God created us this way to be a reflection of a much more magnificent story. He created male and female to reflect different parts of His character and nature. When a woman chooses to take her femininity into her love life, it’s a reflection of God’s good and intentional design.
Gender distinctions are a beautiful reflection of Christ and the Church. Marriage is ultimately a reflection of the gospel. Our femininity isn’t really about us anyway; it’s about us embracing this distinction for God’s glory.

How do you feel about allowing the man to be the leader in your marriage or future marriage?

I hope this helps! Have a blessed day y’all
MISSAGE❤️

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