MISS.AGE❤️

Doubt. When I went through a tough grief experience, I couldn't figure out why I was able to still have a strong hunger for God, His Will, and His ways...yet I couldn't fully enjoy God or His Word.  I felt distracted every time I prayed or read my Bible. As I prayed to God, seeking to conquer the distracting and stagnant apathy I felt, He revealed to me that my root problem wasn't distraction...and it wasn't apathy. It wasn't a lack of focus...or the inability to sit still either.  My root problem was doubt. I didn't doubt God's goodness. I knew in my heart that He IS good. Even though I have been through a lot of loss, He has always given me so much grace to help me to see His goodness every single day. I didn't doubt God's love...I know He IS love and all love comes from Him. Anyone at anytime can look around and see amazing evidences of His astounding great love. God revealed to my heart that I doubted not His ABILIT...

Are We There Yet? When children travel they love to ask, “Are we there yet?” As you navigate life after loss, you may wonder the same thing. Some frequently asked questions are: How long does grief take?  As long as it takes. Each person has their own timeline and unique way of coping with loss.  Will I always miss my loved one? Probably so. But over time, the time of deep ache will be become more bearable, and memories of the person you’re missing will become gentle reminders of the impact they made in your life. Embrace it. It’s OK to always miss them.  Why are people rushing me?  People, especially those who have never lost someone close, may make insensitive comments about how long your mourning lasts. If someone is in a hurry for you to “be yourself again,” remember they did not experience your relationship with the person you’re missing. Take as long as you need.  What about closure? Have you ever heard the saying “Closure is f...

Words. Well-meaning people often try to come up with something to say, when there are no words that can help. Saying too much can make the situation worse. Maybe you’ve heard some of these words that don’t help: ● God must have needed another angel in heaven. ● You’re young. You can marry again. ● You can always have more children. ● They’re in a better place. Insensitive remarks often come from people who have no idea what you’re feeling right now. If you’re tempted to strike back and set the record straight, it might be wise to take a deep breath and count to 10. Hopefully the well-meaning person will learn from your silence! Some words that can help are: ● I’m so sorry. ● I can’t imagine how you must be feeling. ● I’d love to bring you a meal. We can’t control others’ words. But in James 1:19, Jesus’ gives us three tips to manage our words in any situation: Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Miss.Age❤️

"Am I OK?" Have you ever walked into a room and turned around because you have no idea why you’re there? Grief can do that to you. Unfamiliar emotions can make you think you’re losing your mind and can make important decisions seem close to impossible. If you’re experiencing mental fogginess, take heart. The clouds will lift.  Grief-related sleeplessness, appetite changes, mood swings and mental cloudiness will diminish and eventually subside over time. The good news is, you are not going crazy.  Miss.Age❤️

"Help Yourself First" Every time you step on a plane the flight crew reminds you to put your own oxygen mask on before helping others. Grief survival is a lot like in-flight safety. The only way to stay strong and emotionally available for the people in your life is to take care of yourself first.  Rest is not a four-letter word. Technically it is, but not the bad kind. Rest doesn’t have to mean doing nothing. During this challenging season some creative ways for you to refresh might be: ● watching a funny movie or play, ● going to a favorite lake, to the beach or to the mountains, ● painting, singing or drawing, ● taking a break from 24-hour news channels, ● meeting a friend for coffee or dinner. Even if you don’t have a cruise on the calendar this month, consider doing something kind for yourself every day. Miss.Age❤️

You’re the only one who can determine how this season of grief will look. There’s no formula for the right way to grieve. As you take your first steps toward healing, remember: ● When you feel like crying, cry. ● You may feel more relief than sadness right now. That’s OK, too. ● If reminiscing and sharing stories about your loved one makes you laugh, by all means do it. ● Steer clear of people and events that leave you anxious and exhausted. Choosing your activities and company wisely can prevent unnecessary stress. ● It’s OK to say yes to the best, and no to the rest. ● There’s no need to apologise. John 11:35 paints the picture of Jesus and his reaction after the death of his dear friend, Lazarus. Jesus was not above crushing human emotion. Jesus wept. So can we. Miss.Age❤️

Your mess becomes your MESSAGE. Sharing your story to others can help someone who is trapped. Be strong and Courageous. Share your story because it may save a life. Miss.Age❤️

My Nephew Jonah’s Writing. This is what Jonah wrote my 12 year old nephew - I had to share with you guys. I couldn’t believe this kid man lol. SUPER PROUD AUNTY. ( JONAH I HOPE AUNTY COPY IT RIGHT - YOU HAVE DR HAND WRITING LOL😅😅😅) Written by my handsome Nephew Jonah😘😘😘.  “How does an understanding of death create a sense of hope?.” A deep understanding (Knowledge) of death can create a sense of hope and a purpose in life. For many people death is a scary concept because no one has discovered the aftermath of the body giving up. But if conquered, death would have a meaning and a reason behind why those people (loved ones) have passed away. The answers to the question can built by the holy spirit inside you making you a better person by understanding where they are going. If understood, it can create a sense of hope knowing where you are going to go after you pass away. Therefore comprehending the location after death can help you understand the pu...

Dear Age, I’ve done a considerable amount of writing since you’ve been gone, but I think this is the first time I’m writing directly to you. Perhaps it was too painful before, but I think it’s more likely because I don’t know the right words to stitch together to express all of the things I want to say to you. You asked me once what I would do if you were to pass way suddenly. I told you that I didn’t know and I didn’t want to think about it. It’s been over 2 years and  three months and I still don’t know. I still don’t want to think about it. Life has gotten much harder since I’ve lost you. There are all sorts of decisions that I must make that I wouldn’t even have to consider if you were still with me. I miss you. Sometimes it’s still hard for me to wrap my brain around the fact that you do not exist anywhere on this earth. Your laugh, your smile, your vibrant personality are completely gone. Sometimes it feels like you’re going to walk in the door at any moment....

Stand Strong 💪  Do you need God's strength to conquer something in your life today?  Maybe you need strength to forgive someone who has hurt you or forgive yourself? Maybe you need strength to deal with a difficult person in your life? No matter what you may be facing, God desires to give you His supernatural strength in every situation.  It's interesting that one translation of this verse says,  “because God smiled upon them and favored them."  Did you know that simply calling on God causes Him to smile on you?  Because you are His child, you have His favor!  God loves to show Himself strong on your behalf. Be strong in the Lord knowing that He is with you, smiling upon you, and showering you with His favor. As you believe and declare this promise in your life, you will be strengthened to overcome every obstacle, and you will find that you will have the victory! Don’t worry about who wants to bring you down or w...

Should I change my surname? I’ve been getting a lot of questions from my readers -  about if I have changed my surname?? Or When is it the right time to change my surname back to my maiden name? My answer is 1. No, I’m currently using Adrian’s surname. 2. There is no timeframe. It all comes down to the individual. If you are comfortable or not the choice is yours. In my experience about this topic, I can honestly say I cannot change my surname not right now, but I know in time I will get there. (For me it’s too early.) It’s hard enough saying goodbye but to change the name? I’m not ready. Some women widows may experience that it may help them with their healing process to change their surname or others will find it difficult to let go or it’s a choice with no reason. The choice is yours to make. If you are not ready - give yourself some time, be kind to yourself and if you are ready - go for it. It’s your pace, take your time and its your healing process. Re...